In my last article (Communication: Saying What You Mean and Meaning What You Say – Part 1), we began exploring the intricate skill of communication; in particular, we focused on non verbal forms of communication and how there can be inconsistencies between what we say out loud and what the body says without words.
Be it looking into a surprisingly empty bag of chips that was full when you first picked it up or scooping up the last fudgy scoop of ice cream in a carton you just opened when you sat in front of the TV, mindless eating is characteristic of the eating habits of busy people in today’s busy 24/7 society in which we live; meals are commonly scarfed down as quickly as possible or eaten while working on a report, talking on the phone, checking emails, etc.
Research has unequivocally supported the benefits of practicing self compassion for one’s mental, physical, and relational health. Just like no two people are exactly alike in every way, shape, and form, it is not likely that everyone would benefit from the exact same way of practicing self compassion.
Offering yourself kindness and compassion might not make sense to you or just feel uncomfortable; it is, after all, a radically different way of relating to yourself or responding to sufferings and missteps than what is practiced in our society! It is understandable, then that the process could be misunderstood and viewed with some skepticism or reservations.
It is only natural for us humans to want to protect ourselves from harm (our survival instinct); as such, when you have had more than your fair share of tough times and pain and suffering, it is likely that your heart and mind tried to help you out by constructing fantastic doors and barriers to keep painful and negative events and/or emotions out.